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President Henry B. Eyring said, “Our Heavenly Father wants our hearts to be knit together. That union in love is not simply an ideal. It is a necessity.”
How do you go about having your heart knit together in a marriage?  Why is it important or as President Eyring says a necessity?   
Joe wears Tevas to church.  I feel guilty if I walk through a chapel in pants.  Joe firmly believes that the band Phish has produced the best music in the universe.  I love to listen to the cheesiest pop music out there. Joe at his root feels the need to challenge authority and I am totally one to comply.  How does a couple who are so different achieve unity?
Despite (or even because of) our differences, Joe and I have achieved a sense of unity or oneness.  He is my person. The one I know who will always have my back. Who thinks I am capable and smart and important.  I love Joe and I respect the heck out of him. He is true to what he believes without making others feel judged.  
Luckily for me, unity is not achieved by being exactly the same.  Unity is achieved when goals align. Unity is achieved when there is a respect, when love is present, when there is no judgement, and where hearts can be open and vulnerable without fear of injury.     
To knit is to interlock two independent loops of wool or other yarns with a tool like a machine like knitting needles.  It also means to unite or cause to unite. 
The yarn doesn’t have be identical.  It can be different patterns, colors, and even textures depending on what your desired outcome is.  The yarn can also be nearly identical. Different or the same they are still knit together with a tool.
I believe the tool that can unite hearts is the atonement of Jesus Christ.  When we offer Him our hearts and desire to be united to our spouse, he can unite them and then we will be knit together. 

Knit together is our desires, goals, and love.  United by not identical.

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