The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints has a high moral standard that it expects his members to abide.  The emphasis on moral purity is found in countless talks, lessons, and writings. Fear of not living up to such a high moral standard leads some members to approach sexuality with trepidation.

The doctrine of sexuality teaches us that this is a God given power to unite couples and give them a way to connect with each other that they do not share with anyone else.  Prophets throughout the period of the restoration have taught this and yet we as members seem to have missed it a little.

Elder Parley P. Pratt an early leader of the church said, “Our natural affections are planted in us by the Spirit of God, for a wise purpose; and they are the very main-springs of life and happiness—they are the cement of all virtuous and heavenly society—they are the essence of charity, or love; …

“There is not a more pure and holy principle in existence than the affection which glows in the bosom of a virtuous man for his companion; …

“The fact is, God made man, male and female; he planted in their bosoms those affections which are calculated to promote their happiness and union” (Writings of Parley Parker Pratt, 52–53).

As a life long member I have heard many euphemisms about sex that make it seem as if it is only a bad thing.  Some of my favorites was a Young Women leader who always called it the nasty. She had the best of intentions but by calling sex the nasty it lead those girls to believe that no good young women of God would want to engage in this and therefore if you have any sexual feelings at all, you are “nasty.”

As it became my turn to be the Young Women’s leader, I attempted to approach the conversation with a different emphasis.  I told the girls that sex was like an iphone. An iphone is an amazing tool that has a lot of capacity. If I wanted to know how to use my iphone and how to get the most out of it, who would I go do for direction?  

I could ask my grandma. She is super smart and has been around for a long time.  My grandma had four kids so she obviously had some experience with sex. She has a lot of wisdom.  She knows about a lot of things and could even be considered an expert is some things.  

Or should I ask Steve Jobs?  The inventor of the iphone. The person who invented and oversaw the development of the tool.  Of course I would go to Steve Jobs!  

It is the same way with sex, God created sex.  He knows how you will get the most of out it. He knows how to make the tool work.  He wants you to enjoy sexuality. He created your body to do so. That is why we should follow his instruction manual.

What source of information do go to in order to understand and get the most out of your own sexuality?